Lets Talk About Suicide

The shock of hearing that someone has taken their own life can stop you in your tracks. It makes you wonder what they must have been feeling to reach such a decision. To think that they felt they had no other options left is heartbreaking.

What do they leave behind? The regret and guilt of those who wish they had known or could have done something to help. I work with clients suffering from bereavement because they have lost someone close to them in this horrific way. They often feel anger but are ashamed or guilty to admit it. They carry this with them, and when they come to therapy, they speak about their loss and grief.

The big question for them is, “Why?” Why did their loved one not confide in them? “I wish I knew…”

Understanding Suicide and Bereavement

According to the World Health Organization, nearly 800,000 people die by suicide every year, which is one person every 40 seconds. Suicide is a complex issue influenced by various factors, including mental illness, trauma, and lack of support systems. Research shows that 90% of individuals who die by suicide have a diagnosable mental health condition at the time of their death.

For those left behind, the impact of suicide is profound. A study published in the journal Psychiatric Services found that people bereaved by suicide are 65% more likely to attempt suicide themselves compared to those grieving other causes of death.

What You Can Do

If you notice a friend, relative, or coworker who seems off or in a low mood, take a few minutes to ask how they are and truly listen. A study by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention highlights that direct conversations about suicidal thoughts can significantly reduce the risk of an attempt.

If you are having suicidal thoughts and feel depressed, find a therapist to talk about what you are thinking and how you feel.

Tools to Help:

1. Set up a WhatsApp group with numbers of close friends and family you can message if suicidal thoughts come into your head. Have an agreement with your family and friends that this group is for this purpose alone. Share a code word so they understand when you need help.

2. Keep the following numbers at hand:
• Samaritans: 116 123 (available 24/7)
• Suicide Prevention Line: 0800 068 4141

3. Keep photos of your friends and family. It’s a reminder that you are loved and of happy times.

4. Creativity: Keep coloring pens or pencils, coloring books, music, or a journal to write down reasons why you are worth it.

5. Music: Create a playlist to uplift your mood.

6. Gratitude list: Add one thing to the list every day, even if it’s the smallest thing.

7. Personalise your kit: Add things to it that mean something to you.

8. Find a therapist to speak to. You can contact your local Mind, the Counselling Directory, the Suicide Prevention Line, or Depression UK for a list of therapists who can help.

Most of all, remember: You are worth it.

If you have lost a loved one to suicide, seek help through counseling or psychotherapy to come to terms with your grief. Research shows that grief counseling can significantly reduce the risk of prolonged grief disorder and other related mental health issues.

Conclusion

Addressing suicide and bereavement requires a compassionate, proactive approach. By providing support, understanding, and practical tools, we can help those struggling with suicidal thoughts and those grieving the loss of a loved one. Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, and taking steps towards healing is always worth it.